We have often heard that relationships need to be nurtured, and couple relationships are an example of the need to keep the flame burning for the relationship to grow and prosper.
The social role of women is in continuous evolution, subject to numerous changes, and these changes are not stable and what reality shows is that there has not been a social and emotional adaptation to these changes and what refers to the couple, this has been affected by it.
The current couple relationship is greatly influenced by the new role of women, since the way in which both members are linked, completely different from previous generations, will define the future success of the couple and that is what will be worked on in therapy: conflicts, lack of communication, respect, false beliefs, expectations and if any, sexual dysfunctions.
Es de suma importancia la colaboración de ambas partes con el objetivo del crecimiento por y para la pareja.
When does the couple no longer make sense?
There are times when the couple is very damaged, there are many entrenched problems over time and couples therapy may no longer be effective so that separation occurs.
If this is the case, therapy can be a way of accompaniment for both partners but with different psychotherapists. This accompaniment will help with the physical and emotional trauma of a breakup.
Why do couple relationships fail?
Each person has lived different experiences and have been linked in a different way, so when it comes to being in a couple relationship this influences considerably, so it will relate to the other.
In a couple relationship it is of utmost importance to be clear about why the couple has been created and how it has been created and what project there is in common where the we is included, because if this is not clear the relationship will not get very far.
How is a rewarding couple relationship?
A rewarding couple relationship is one in which both members feel complete and happy, where communication flows, pacts and agreements are reached, there is respect, where there is give and take and the balance is balanced, although in many occasions to receive 2 you have to give 4. If this is repeated over time, an imbalance is produced and that is when problems begin to arise.
There is a lot of myth in relationships, we can see it in the movies, in books, in music and from a young age, especially girls, grow up with the idea of Prince Charming who comes to rescue them.
This is a fantasy, which has nothing to do with reality, to think that what I lack or what I have problems with will be solved by the other. This is closely related to expectations, expecting too much from the other, and not thinking that he or she is what he or she is, not what I want him or her to be.
To have a rewarding couple there must first be a development and an individual space for each of the members. Each one must have his or her own time and space, and this is where work, studies, friends and hobbies come in, and there must be a balance between my individual time and space with my time and space as a couple, because often this individual space is used as an escape and escape from the conflicts that arise when being in a couple.
In order to be accompanied, one must first know how to be alone, that is to say, not to wait for the other to complete us, because everything begins with oneself.
Most common relationship problems
Lack of communication
Communication is the basis on which the couple is based. Many times things are taken for granted, when reality shows that it is not so, we must sit down and talk, not only expose our points of view and our complaints, we must also know how to listen to the other, try to put ourselves in their place and only through this reach agreements and deals, not blinded by our selfish emotions that do not lead anywhere.
The interference of the respective families
There must be certain limits when talking about the interference of the respective families. We should not take for granted that all Sundays, vacations or other situations must be spent with our extended family. From respect and affection we must set limits so that no one interferes in our couple relationship, especially in young couples, since we need to grow individually first, to be free and independent and only through this way we can grow as a couple.
Sexual dissatisfaction
Sexual dissatisfaction is one of the causes of relationship failure. Each couple is a world and it depends on what situation is being lived: an illness, an important change in life, where there is a period of absence of sexual relations, which is normal, because couple relationships fluctuate, but if this absence is extended in time and is left in oblivion could begin to create a conflict.
Lack of respect
Thinking that the other person is going to change to make me happy is a childish idea. We have to accept the other person as he/she is, not try to change him/her, respect him/her, because otherwise we will live in continuous conflict with ourselves for not reaching our expectations and with the other person for not being who we want him/her to be.
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